As I get older, I am starting to realise that it is difficult
to keep a woman happy in the bedroom. These are a few thoughts
that may be worth considering. Comfort is essential, so
buy the best mattress you can find, if one person likes
a firm mattress, while the other prefers a soft one, then
why not buy two half mattresses and zip them together,
then everyone’s happy. Put the mattress in a quality
sleigh bed, waterbed, or even a four poster or canopy bed,
The feel and look of the bedroom is often left to the
woman within married couples. Her softer, more romantic
side takes over, and the room is more ‘girlie’ than
many others in the house. It seems that the decision regarding
a new bed is probably mutual, both wanting the bed to fit
in with the period or style of the home, but often with
the lady getting her way if she fancies a four poster bed.
I was once that when a couple want a coffee table, the
man is usually only really interested in putting his paper,
his tea, his feet on it, and how much it will cost, while
it is the woman that is concerned with what it will look
like, and how it fits in with the rest of the furniture.
It is similar for a four poster bed. The man is usually
more interested avoiding a bad back and a pain in the wallet
than all of the finer details of the drapes and the colour
of the material. I have, however, noticed that men often
like chunky posts, raised fielded or linenfold panels,
while the women look at the more subtle details like the
shape of the posts, beading, mouldings, dust collecting
areas, and whether you can get the vacuum cleaner under
it. And of course, boys like oak.
I have sat at many shows exhibiting furniture, with a
four poster taking prime spot on the stand, and regularly
hear comments about these beds.
‘I’ve always wanted one of those, ever since I was a little girl.’
‘How romantic.’ (Women)
‘I’m having one when I win the lottery.’ (Usually women)
‘I’ll have to find a man that has enough money to afford one of
those’, and a big enough house to put it in, I thought.
‘Can you get the handcuffs around those posts?’ (Men and women)
‘I’m going to have some fun in that!’ (Elderly lady, nearly
‘I wonder if he can put mirrors in the roof?’ (So male)
Or one of my favourites, ‘The trouble is that when
a man has enough money to be able to afford a bed like
this, he no longer has the energy to be able to get his
Some of these comments make four posters sound expensive,
but when you think about it, is it? Why not have what you
want? You spend virtually one third of your life in bed
and if a four poster is what it takes to satisfy a woman,
make her happy, why not appeal to her romantic side, tickle
her fancy, and give her one, a bed that is. Beds can be
made any size, with many styles of posts and panels, colours,
woods, with or without carving. Four poster beds can be
put around your existing divan base, a waterbed, or even
a remote control adjustable comfort bed.
I smiled one day after completing a delivery, having erected
the new four poster, gently shutting the customers’ front
door behind me, walking down the path towards the van,
on a hot summers day, with the house windows open. I heard
the sound of thundering feet running up the stairs, and
the young couple shouting ‘Whey hey’ and ‘Yippee’,
and in over five years, I have not received a phone call
from them saying that the bed has falling apart.
But seriously I realise that this article has been written
referring to heterosexual couples. I am not in anyway bias,
but while writing this it has come to my attention that
we have not had any enquiries from gay or lesbian couples.
This could be a reflection on my poor marketing, what seemingly
single customers have lead me to believe, or maybe there
is only a demand for four poster beds within heterosexuals.
I would be grateful for your comments, as it could well
be the topic for another article.